Separate facts from stories
"He didn't reply" is a fact. "He's ignoring me" is a story.
The idea
A fact is what a camera would record. A story is what your mind adds. "He didn't reply" is a fact. "He is ignoring me" is a story.
Why it matters
Stress often comes from the story, not the fact. Separating them lets you respond to what actually happened rather than to a version your mind invented to fill the gap.
The shift
From "This is what happened" to "This is what I observed, and this is what I am adding."
Try this today
Take a situation that is bothering you. Write two columns, facts and stories. Read the facts only, and notice how your feelings change.
Reflection question
What am I adding to this situation that is not actually known?
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Keep going
Stop waiting to feel ready
Readiness is a by-product of action, not a requirement for it.
One better decision
Lives change through a run of slightly better decisions, not one dramatic leap.
Question your story
A story you believe becomes a rule you follow. Check that it is true.